Swingers and dating guide for beginners

You’ve probably heard of swinging, and maybe you’ve become curious about it. After all, you’re not visiting this website and this article by accident. Below, you’ll be taken into the world of swinging and you’ll get information on how it works.

What is swinging?

Swinging has been around for decades, but because it was taboo to talk about it openly for a long time, it can seem like something new. Even now it’s not talked about openly, but thanks to the rise of the internet it’s much easier to talk about swinging, find information, and discreetly visit specific websites. The number of swinging couples has also increased since the early 2000s. And most couples swing simply because they enjoy it. 
A frequently asked question from someone unfamiliar with swinging is: “Why would you swing with others if you’re in a relationship?” The answer is simple: not everyone is monogamous and some people like having sexual freedom. Some choose to cheat, while others prefer to do things together and be open with each other. Swingers usually meet with other couples and share a bed with them. As swingers you can choose to build a longer-term connection with another couple, or keep it to one fun night with one or more couples. In a healthy relationship, swinging is never a must, but rather a fun addition to the pleasure you already share together.
The most important thing in a relationship is trust. Swingers generally have more trust in their partner than non-swinging couples. This is partly because clear agreements have been made and you can openly fantasize about other bed partners.

Swinging together

When you swing with others, it’s a great way to experiment sexually. You learn new techniques, positions, feelings, and you get to know your own body better. When you then have sex with your own partner again, you can use this new knowledge for even more exciting bedroom fun. Couples also like to experiment with sexuality in other ways. You’ll still regularly see men or women also getting it on with each other. If you have a satisfying sex life within your relationship, experience shows there’s a good chance you’ll have a strong relationship in other areas as well.
That said, swinging doesn’t automatically guarantee a better relationship. Although in many cases it helps build a strong bond, that’s not always true. Swingers face the same kinds of issues that can end relationships as anyone else.
Swinging together does make it easier to talk openly about sexual fantasies, which helps strengthen your intimate connection.

Bringing up swinging

Some people find the idea of full partner swapping incredibly exciting, while others would rather just kiss someone else. If you’re in a long-term relationship, the thought of swinging can be very appealing. You’re sharing your partner with someone else, which is a thrilling concept, or you simply have the desire to be intimate with another person.

How do you bring up swinging, and what if your partner isn’t interested?

Before you dive in at the deep end and start the conversation, it’s smart to have at least some idea of how your partner might feel about swinging. You can approach this in different ways. Start by reading out other people’s experiences or thoughts and then ask your partner what they think about it. You can also directly ask what they know about swinging and how they feel about it. Sometimes people’s ideas about swinging simply aren’t accurate. Many see swinging as a form of cheating for people who don’t really “dare” to cheat. But swinging is absolutely not that! It’s an extra dimension within a relationship that takes place between two or more people.
From your partner’s reaction you can tell how they think about swinging. At some point you’ll need to ask the question: would he or she like to try swinging with you? Don’t jump straight in; start by dipping your toes in the water. Visit a website, read a few blogs, and sign up to a swingers dating site.

If your partner agrees, that’s of course fantastic news! It’s important that you start slowly. For example, visit a swingers club without any plan to actually swing. That way you can get a feel for the atmosphere in a relaxed and safe way. The tension alone will quickly make it a fun experience just for the two of you. You can also talk to more experienced swingers there and listen to their experiences and tips. If your partner doesn’t respond (positively) to the idea of swinging, it’s better to leave it for a while. You can bring it up again after a few weeks or months and explain how you still feel about it. 

Online swinging tips

These days you can easily find plenty of websites that offer swinger dating. There you’ll find other people who also want to swing. You can then arrange to meet in a club, at someone’s home, or at a party. A swingers party doesn’t have to consist of just two couples. The more the merrier, right?

Swingers dating sites – how do they work?

If you’ve taken the plunge together and decided to explore the world of swinging, it’s time to look into (online) swinger platforms. In real life it can be quite difficult to find other swingers, and walking straight into a swingers club might feel like a step too far. The solution lies in online swinger dating websites that you can calmly browse together for more information and to search for suitable swinger couples.
Below you’ll find a few websites you can visit to look for the best swinger dates.

1. Regioswingers.nl

2. Flirtenindebuurt.nl

3. IWVS.nl

4. Regiosexcontact.nl

Privacy on dating sites

Swingers come from every background, every gender and every sexual orientation. But swinging still isn’t accepted by everyone. That’s why it’s important not to make your sexual lifestyle too public. Many websites are very discreet and proud of it. You almost never have to show your face in photos on your profile. Instead, you can create a private album with those photos and only give the password to people you trust. Nude photos are not required, but they are allowed.

Getting started on a swingers dating site

You’ve decided to sign up for a dating site, but how does swinging actually work? First, take a look around at your own pace. That’s always a good idea before you start swinging. This way you see what type of couple you like, whether there’s a click, and in what way you’d like to swing. There are several different forms of swinging.
Start by carefully reading the site’s terms and conditions, see if you can find reviews from previous members and swingers, and build up some trust.
After that, there are lots of possibilities, but it’s important to take things step by step, earn trust within the swinging community, check whether things are legit, and only then take action and actually start swinging. That’s how you get the best results, avoid nasty surprises and, before you know it, you’ll be the experienced swingers sharing your own tips and stories with others who are still finding their way.